Do I have to Stand Up for Myself?

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At the highest experience with life, there is nothing fair and unfair, right and wrong, truth or false, but everything that happens, in different situations, events, and experiences of life, and the way you face them, and the way you respond to them, create a path for you, to reach to that ultimate experience.

You can choose the safest path, with no conflict and accept, whatever happens to you, during the process, or you take a stand for yourself, that goes right with your perspective, after thorough examination and looking into the situation with proper understanding.

You have to make a choice for yourself. If you choose the safest path, it’s not that you don’t pay the price for it, and let me tell you, the price is more than when you take a stand for something and defend it till the end.

Taking life choices and decisions with your absolute consciousness is what matters. You choose any path, but you should be absolutely clear to yourself, what you have asked from life.

If you take a stand, you have to be prepared to pay the price, in terms of money, time, energy and anything that requires defending your stand point.

If you simply accept everything, simply to please everyone, then it doesn’t mean, it comes without a price, for it too, have the price.

You have to choose, what goes well with your nature, and more importantly, whatever you stand for, make sure, it doesn’t take you on an ego trip. You cannot support anything or stand up for yourself if it’s only to serve your ego.

To stand up, for or against anything means to view life, from the neutral point of view, and then stand for something that you feel absolutely appropriate, into a given situation, without any bias.

As I have already mentioned before, that the ultimate experience of life or the ultimate truth of life, has nothing to do, either you stand for or against something, but it only serve your personal identity, to make you stronger for the future.

Every moment and every situation of our life are equally important to shape and mold our life, in a way that prepares us, for the ultimate experience.

Any choice or decision that makes you stronger is good, and any choice and decision that makes you weaker from inside, is not good. You can view life, from the neutral stand point, and make your personal choice or decision accordingly.

The most important thing is, whatever you choose with your life, have the courage to stand by it and your choice and decision should never be out of fear.

When I write down this blog, I am absolutely aware that, each individual grow and evolve with life, and our perspective does change towards life, as we grow and evolve with life, but still there are certain things that remain constant during the entire process of evolution.

No matter what stand you take with your life, you have to be clear within you, why did you chose something, and for some reason, if your choice or decision, may ask you to pay a certain price, you remain absolutely prepare to pay the price for it.

Your thoughts may change own certain issues with time, and it’s natural when you grow and evolve with the process of life. The thing is, even in the midst of all the change, there are certain aspects of life, that always remains constant, and once you are clear with what is constant and what change with the nature of life, it becomes easier for you, to hold yourself, even in the midst of the most difficult situations of life.

The success on the path is not with its result, but how you live on the path. Many people believe that life can be free from problems if they become enlightened, but this is not the truth. You still face the same situation, events, and experiences with your life.

What’s important is how you face them with your highest understanding, and change the problem, into the best experience of your life.

The only difference between the perspective of a mind and an enlightened being is, that the enlightened being, view life’s situation, events, people as an experience, and handle each moment of his life, with his highest understanding.

On top of that, for love and happiness, he doesn’t look out of himself, but simply move inward, while the mind views every situation or event of life, as a problem and trying to get rid of the situation, with the solution, considering the situation of his past. Mind looks even for a little happiness outward, and thus creates more miseries for himself.

“Everyone holds their perspective towards life, holding some or the other idea about life. If that idea itself is false, your perspective towards life, will not take you far away, with any aspect of life. Unless your idea is closer to the truth, you only live in an illusion.”

The best example of it is wealth. The majority of the world’s population consider wealth to be the ultimate fulfillment for happiness, and yet the ones those who have accomplished it, have denied this truth of life.

Still, people make choice or decisions keeping wealth in their mind, and thus sooner or later, their illusion gets shed away by the reality of life, as reality has nothing to do with how much wealth you possess, and stand absolutely alone within its principles.

Wealth is not the bad thing, but there has to be an absolute clarity with what leads to what? You need to know the consequences of your action, and only then you can write your own fate of life, in a true sense.

The truth and its principles exist both inside as well as outside and the one who creates his life, closer to the truth, experience bliss, wisdom and all the prosperity of life.

“The truth or reality or the principles of life, has nothing to do, with what we believe or what the majority of the world follows. The truth stands for itself, and comes as a winner all the time.”

It’s not that truth doesn’t mold or bend itself with a different situation. Yes, it does, but truth never leaves the shadow of itself. It always knows that life has many shadows, but truth has to get back to himself, after passing through all the different shadows of life.

Never be afraid to stand for yourself, and to defend your truth, till the end. Remember in any game, including the game of life, it’s not the stronger or healthier wins, but it’s always the one, who refuse to give up, and who is ready to stand till the end, comes out as a winner.

Excerpt from The Teachings of Don Juan: A Yaqui Way of Knowledge

“Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.

This question is one that only a very old man asks. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life, I could say I have traversed long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere, but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.

Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point, very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.” ― Carlos Castaneda 

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